Making the child feel loved and valued … Here is the secret to raising a happy child. Considering that the mother’s emotions affect the baby from the moment the parents decide to have a baby, we can understand the fact that this emotion passes into the milk when the mother is stressed and the baby rejects the milk. The baby in the womb perceives the mother’s emotions, troubles, despair, unhappiness and unwillingness as it is. Hypnosis studies have shown that our traumas can occur even in this period.
If we want our children to be happy, peaceful, spiritually and physically healthy, we must try to create a loving family atmosphere. In a family environment dominated by unconditional love, sharing, honesty and knowing how to enjoy life, your child will be happier and more peaceful. It is very important for spouses to love and respect each other, to be honest and transparent, to protect their personal integrity, to use verbal and non-verbal expressions of affection along with behaviors that will strengthen your bond with them.
Along with unconditional love, behaviors that will cause the development of a belief in worthlessness should also be avoided. Especially in families where parents work, when less time is allocated to the child, when less attention is paid and the quality of the time spent is low, when the parents and even other elders of the family are rewarded only when they are successful and punished when they fail, there occurs a belief of worthlessness in the child because he is constantly trying to meet expectations. This affects all the relationships it will establish in the future. He/she may think that he/she will be loved and cared for when he meets expectations. Thinking that no matter what he/she does after a while, he/she cannot please anyone, reinforces the feeling of inadequacy. If you ignore the negative behaviors that the child sometimes does just to get your attention, with the remorse of not being able to spare enough time, not showing your interest and love enough, you will open wounds in your child that reduce the quality of life until they receive therapy.
Every individual has the belief that “if someone can do it, I can do it”. Babies try this over and over again before they can walk, fall off, and try again. They model the people around them and learn to walk if there is no problem preventing them from walking. If the child’s learning effort is blocked by rules, the child starts to feel bad, inadequate and worthless.
Let him sloup while eating and get his toy off the seat himself, climb the chair himself, make the cake himself, let him try to climb the seat himself. Congratulate not only when he succeeds, but also when he fails.
Children remain in a natural trance state until their programming is complete. Most of the time, the suggestions you give in situations where they have no information and no information is recorded in their subconscious reaches directly to the subconscious. You are responsible. Your every comment, every speech, every plan, even if you forget one day, will be engraved in his subconscious. We constantly encounter this situation with our clients. In order to find their own inner voices, they first had to get rid of the voice of the parents. Many were aware of the stereotypes they learned from their parents. They were so old and penetrated so deeply that their oldness made them look real. But these beliefs make up your realities and, without reframing, they continue to lower your quality of life and prevent you from creating new realities.
And peace… Remember, your children will be a child once. Let them live their childhood. Let them run, play, have fun, laugh, wonder and sing like children. Sometimes you may forget that they are children because they grow taller, have improved bodies, or because they reason very well. If there is an incomplete emotion or a period when they cannot live in their childhood, we always continue to raise children who are lacking in energy, unhappy, restless and unmotivated.
