Every person makes mistakes, we must be willing to give our children this opportunity, especially so that we are not one of those people who do not take steps to make mistakes. Mistakes are opportunities to learn.
When the child makes a mistake, it will be the best strategy that ensuring that look their own mistakesas learning and encourage them to try again.
Coaches constantly motivate their clients to try again in every failure. As parents, let their mistakes turn into opportunities.
Correct the lack of information in the errors caused by the lack of information. Mistakes by the child may also be due to not knowing completely, here it will be important for you to correct the lack of information by asking the right questions or as a direct guide and informer.
Help him focus on what he/she wants to achieve, what is important to your child, what he/she really wants, like an expert. Once you’ve decided what this is, be a coach that keeps him on track to keep his focus here for success.
Ask him what he can do differently next time. “Even if it was a mistake, what did you learn from this situation? What can you do differently next time? Whatever you do differently, you won’t have to live this life again? ” You can raise awareness in the child by asking the right coaching questions such as.
Avoid disappointing and disapproving behavior, help him question what he wants. Giving the impression of disappointing you in every mistake of the child will harm the child’s sense of self.
He will feel inadequate, insecure, and unsuccessful. We all need recognition and approval, and making mistakes is the result of being human. What if this error happened? What are the reasons for your child to make this mistake? Support him in questioning them and building awareness of what he really wants and what he can do differently.
And, without any blame, help him describe what his behavior was, its consequences. Awareness on this issue will not only prevent the event from happening again, but will also help the child to raise awareness about developing more positive behaviors.
Ozlem – Inci Aktas
