Although we can talk about some tips and tricks about interpersonal communication, even though everyone claims that they have received communication training, we do not listen to each other, interrupt each other, and we can raise our voices and be hurtful. In order for you to establish more satisfying relationships, it would be appropriate to make a behavior and communication agreement, which you will see below. This contract has ties and sanctions to the persons making the contract. Parents and children should sign this communication and behavior agreement that you have created together and write their sanctions in the agreement. In the content of this contract, for example; There may be article as follows:
• Not arguing in public.
• Not scolding or criticizing in everyone.
• Not speaking up in everyone.
• Talking and solving problems in detail instead of accumulating them.
• Not threatening to do something to upset the parties.
• Not attaching adjectives to each other.
• Not bringing up an issue that has been apologized before.
• Not comparing with others.
• Not to blame without speaking in detail before any incident happened.
• Use a sign designed to stop one of the parties breaking the rules. It could be raising your hand like a “stop” sign from the traffic police.
When the hand sign is shown, both parties should cut whatever they are doing, think and choose their new behavior according to the outcome of it. If one of the parties violates the rules, the other can notify him of this and have the sanction imposed. We want you to be creative with the sanction. When we say sanction, please do not think of something like punishment or taking something that the person likes.
Ozlem – Inci Aktas
